After emailing back and forth a few times he asked for my phone number, I gave him my cell number expecting a text, but he called me. We spoke easily for over an hour and a half.
We looked into meeting that Friday but it didn't quite suit. We agreed on the Friday after.
I had no contact from him all week, so Thursday night I sent him a text confirming all was well for tomorrow. It was, there was no conversation by text or email, old fashioned maybe, and I wonder if I can change that cos I like the sending and receiving of sweet nothings in the night texts when you can't be together and thinking of you, when you do.
I was early to our meeting place, a bar with a restaurant. I sent him a text to let him know on the off chance he might be early too. He was and was there within 5 minutes.
It was nice to meet him, he looked just like his pic. He is 6 foot, good build, a nice blend of metro and rugged. We have a lot in common and easily broke the cardinal rule of not talking about the Ex's. But we have been through so much of the same things it was nice to find support and understanding.
He was a farm worker for a while but then injured himself so went to university and studied for the job he has now. Its a good job, not stuck in an office all the time but out and about on the land as well. He likes to hunt, I find that very sexy in a man, the ability to hunt and provide.
We went for dinner after the drink, he insisted he bought, he understood my financial limitations. Dinner was nice, we talked a lot about food, how nice it is to be cooked for, he is the single parent of two daughters. His ex wife while able to look after the kids for a short time is not in a place where she can for long. We both feel the same about introducing a new partner to the kids, not doing it right away. We both had dessert, I actually felt comfortable eating dessert around him, not like the fat girl pigging out. He showed me some pics on his phone from across the table, when I showed him some in exchange he came and sat beside me. There was a warmth and comforting feeling having him beside me like that. I felt like he would be someone who was on my side and supportive.
We went for a walk down to the lake front, it was a couple of blocks away and not a straightforward path, so at one stage I took his hand to lead him, but kept hold as it was nice to be with him like that.
We looked at the stars, he asked if I knew the southern cross etc, I said yes and showed him a few more constellations he didn't know. Then I thought I'd bull shit him a bit and started pointing out Sagittarius and Taurus and then laughed my arse of when he started to see things I was pointing out and I explained I had no idea what I was pointing to.
It was fun to tease him and play with him as well as be close and talk. I knew he would kiss me at the lake front and I think he knew it too, but it took ages for the moment to be right.
His kisses were firmer than I'm used to, but they got softer and more passionate, I will need to take things slow with him, he has not dated since his wife.
Eventually after nothing more than kissing we walked back to my car and said goodbye, we have already set a 2nd date for next weekend, maybe a bike ride and picnic, maybe a rafting trip, will be subject to weather I guess.
Update 1
I had a second date with SM, it started well, he picked me up. He bought some steaks from his farm for me to cook him for tea... I kind of thought that was a bit presumptious and kind of liked his style. We went out to a small town, intending to do a bush walk based there. We went for lunch first, lovely meal, good conversation etc. then we drove to where the bush walk started and it started pouring with rain. we sat in the car chatting for a bit then he drove down by the river where there was a lovely view of the mountains and pulled me into his lap to kiss me. Again the kisses were very firm, almost biting too. He told me he was able to stay the night with me, I was ok with that idea. We lay back the seats and made out for a bit, I felt his crutch and it was soft, I was surprized as he was having a good go at my breasts... he got my shirt off me and my bra and I was sitting astride him in the car when about 40 kayakers pulled up and got out of the river right where we were... OMG I'm glad I saw them first. I rolled over back to my seat and pulled my coat over me, the first kayaker got a good look and had a giggle but the rest were oblivious. All this time SM stayed soft... it was discussed, he said he had spoken to his doc about it and his doc said that as he still had a morning glory there was no medical issue. He is taking anti depressants and they mess with function he said. We got back to my place and I cooked him his steak... perfectly, well I was a wife for 14 years lol. I had a DVD I wanted to watch but he wouldn't watch it with me. It was a thriller he doesn't like scary movies... ok, but then he wouldn't let me watch it either. that bugged me as it was still too early to go to bed and to be honest I was getting sick of his company. It was too long to spend together. He stayed the night but wanted to cuddle all night. That bugs me, I cuddle for a bit then roll over and get some sleep. In the morning, true to word he had a lovely morning glory.. but it faded before we could get a condom on. Then Aunt Flow turned up with a clear agenda, no slow start and spotting like she usually does. I dealt to Aunt Flow and went back to bed and fell asleep. Later I let him get up and see himself out, I was tired.
We have had a few phone calls and a couple of text conversations since then, he wants another date but I think I'm going to have to say no, there just isn't the spark I want.
Update 2
He asked if I would meet him for a drink on Friday at 4pm, thats when I drop the kids off to their Dad.
I did and it was good to se him. I was going to tell him it was going nowhere but he had made a picnic. I was impressed, he had even made sushi, not bought it. It was good too.
We spent a lot of time talking, he told me all about his religion and I felt really uncomfortable, I don't believe. We had so little in common but he still wanted to see me again.
I agreed but then spoke to him on the phone and cancelled, I don't see the point of dragging things out when its not going to work.
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