Who Shot JR?

Who shot JR? I can't remember that now but I can remember everyone wondering, and the is a guy (JR) I have been chatting with who has me wondering, he just doesn't add up.

He says he works at a computer all day, but then types really slowly. It shows him typing for about 30 sec before "Hello" appears.

He is supposedly another military man, seems to know about things that are happening, like training at Tekapo, but then stuff like that made the local news. He just seems like a phoney... I'm so cynical... which guys did this to me?

He does seem sweet and nice, actually change that to tame. He wants to try video chat this afternoon. During regular chat I find myself easily distracted and quite happy to flip through other pages on the computer and get back to him to reply when i can be bothered. That says it all really, I guess I'm not so into him.

Have chatted with him online, he is clearly way more into me than I am him.. will continue to chat for a bit, but I'm not holding any hope.

Baggy

Good looking guy, a bit short and a bit out of my age preference but he looks a lot younger than his age, almost a bit too hot for me.

He is fit, tramps and skis. He drives a truck for a living. Has kids in their 20's who have left home. Is divorced.

We have chatted for a few months and still not met, maybe we have left it too long? But no he perseveres, and is coming to visit me next weekend.... I'm thinking eeekkk I need to go on a diet/what will I wear/I'd better clean my house. But then I think he needs to like me as I am and be happy with that. Now are those the words of a woman who is desperate or doubtful?

UPDATE

Well he postponed this weekend till next weekend. I have a friend coming to town next weekend and will be wanting to do stuff with her and the kids. Will be interesting, I might be able to get in a date though.

UPDATE 2, next weekend has now turned into September, he can't make it this weekend, next weekend I'm at a ball in another town and the weekend after that I have my kids all weekend... so September its gonna have to be.

Its not going to be September, he is taking a job offer in another town and moving there asap. He sent me what was effectively a break up email, saying sorry he had to choose the job over me right now. I reminded him we had not even met yet, that I was not expecting him to consider me at all with the job as we had not even met. I am ok with him making that decision. he seemed a sweetie but you just can't tell online.

Fireman Sam

Ok so a basic "Hi how are you" for a message... I wasn't even going to bother to reply. But then I checked his profile, hmmm why hasn't he come up in my matches before? He fits all my criteria.

So we chatted a bit, and he asked for my phone number and asked me out for dinner tomorrow. I declined dinner but have accepted a drink.

He has been a fire fighter for 15 years, he looked familiar, that could have been where I've seen him, I was a volly fire fighter for 8.5 years in a brigade that occasionally worked alongside his. Thats a plus in my book, I like the idea of someone who does stuff for other people. We have exchanged a few pics, he said he likes my smile, nice, he never mentioned boobs! Nice to chat with a guy without a one track mind.

Will let you know how things go after our meet tomorrow.

Ok, so Fireman Sam, not in my league - or should I say I'm way out of his! His pics are clearly old, he has gained a fair amount of weight. We know a few people in common, but chat consisted of mostly Fire Brigade chat, chat about the town I used to live in, he spent a while trying to work out if he knew my brother in Highschool.

When I send pics to people I try to make sure they are recent, I wish others would do the same.

Indian Steve

So far just chatting online..
He sent an email that stood out, It didn't have Hi in the title and he asked a question which opened things up for me to reply.
We exchanged a few emails, he asked fun questions, "Do I like white roses?" "Can I bake a mean carrot cake?"
When I look at his profile I'm everything he wants except for being slender or athletic/toned which every guy wants until he spends the night with her in a van when he realizes a bit of padding is not such a bad thing.He ticks most of my boxes too.
He lives a bit far away, but its nothing that can't be overcome.
He sent me a pic of his dog- a similar dog to the one I had.
I feel cynical though, so many frogs its hard to find the prince among them... I know he is out there - I've just not met him yet.

Update.

So we got chatting online the other night and decided to exchange some more pics... I sent some hot sexy, happy and adventurous looking pics... he then said he had none. I sent him a somewhat risque pic of me in a hot tub in exchange for him sending me one of him with his shirt off. he is a builder and in his pics he looked fairly fit... well I'm now guessing they were fairly old pics cos the one he sent me... well its not pretty, pale pasty moobs (Man boobs) dominate the pic, he has about 3 double chins (Does that make it a triple chin?) and he is almost scowling in a constipated manner at the camera... I said dude you should be smiling, he said its late and I'm tired, i said you are talking to me - YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY BOUT THAT!

The chat is fine and fun but he looks way older and way bigger than "average" as stated in his profile. I'm now looking back at the pics I first saw and thinking they are on weird angles, does that just make him look average? I'm also looking at his hairline and while he is nowhere near bald his forehead is a lot larger in the pic he sent me just taken... another frog I'm guessing but... I may try online chatting with web cam to see, maybe he just isn't photogenic.

UPDATE 2, have had a chat online, he really does look older for his age, but he was nice to chat with, he is much better looking animated than in a photo. One of his friends was there, they were both new to Skype and I was tempted to do my welcome to web cam chat trick... where I arrange the web cam to head and shoulders and then take my top off... usually driving them insane, making them stand up and move their web cam/computer around trying to find an angle with more advantage. But I restrained myself.

UPDATE 3 So spent about 1.5 hours chatting to him from 11.30pm when I got home from my night on the town. Never short of anything to chat about. He tells me about the house he is renovating, about the kitchen he ordered for it. Trying to seduce me with his smooth granite counter tops... its kind of working. I know I'm not the kind of girl to fall for someone for their asset list, but its nice to know that by his age he has some, he is 8 years older than me. He called me "just a child really" which bemused me, he thinks I'm so young, does that mean he wants to be my sugar daddy? He has such lovely dogs too, I met them online - strangely they showed no interest in me whatsoever.

He keeps asking why I am still single, seems to think I should have been snapped up ages ago. He told me I was a stunner, I find compliments like that hard to take, its just too much so I know its not true. I replied that all the girls in his town must be bush pigs.

No set day/time to chat again but I know I want to soon.

Update 4

More chat, he keeps calling me gorgeous... makes me a bit uncomfortable... but I'm really starting to like him. Found out a lot about him, he was a fire fighter for a few years in Melbourne, rural fire like me. He does volunteer work for Red Cross... now I really like that. He seems really busy, he is working on his own house right, asked my advice about colours, it feels wrong offering that advice as I know I'm not likely to be the one enjoying them. he is coming down my way soon, to pick up a truck, a water tanker, one that I used to drive (well the same type) when I was in the fire brigade. He said he would visit me then. He lives such a long way away I really can't see myself relocating that far and he has so many business and interests where he is... but I don't want to say its impossible. But leaving the chat with him I have a smile on my face.

Richard 1st

My most recent date - an internet chat and decide to meet for coffee....

Ok so it took about 30 text messages to decide on a date, place and time. Then the dude, Richard, is all like "wait outside for me, we can meet than go in together" I said screw that dude its freezing outside. I was about 3 mins late when i got a text message asking where I was.

I replied "opening the door" and by the time it sent I was ... I liked the way that happened.

So I asked what he wanted to drink, he was sitting there without a drink. Speights he replied and I knew the date was doomed, it was 6pm.

I honestly tried to fancy him, I sat there and imagined him touching me, kissing me, I nearly laughed, his top lip was really thin and rubbery looking, would have been like a goat nibbling. The conversation was controlled by me, the whole date was controlled by me. Richard was a military man but obviously more used to receiving orders than giving them. I found him pleasant enough company, maybe because I like to talk about myself. But I just didn't fancy him.

Then he asked if we should go back to my place... I pretended to have no idea at what he was suggesting.. I laughed inside at the idea I have never done that before.

I told him the truth, he was nice enough but lacked immediate spark and if he wanted to get to know me I would probably meet him again on a friend basis.

I then told him I'm bring pizza home to my family and its time for me to go.

He followed me to hang out while we got pizza.

He sent me a text about 11pm asking if I slept naked.

I replied I wore a long flannelette nighty and bed sock to bed and why did he want to know?

He replied he was touching himself and thinking of me. I stopped replying.

He sent text after text... too explicit to post here.

His last one came at 3am... he was unable to sleep... thinking of me.

Soooooo obviously I fucked with his head... I should find a better use for my powers but hey this is fun.

So, he has texted me a few times asking if I want to meet again. I ignored him. Then I got a message on the internet dating site and I decided to take a leaf out of my own book and replied honestly to him...

"To be brutally honest No, I find you a bit too sleezy, you crossed the line from flirty to sleeze and it grossed me out. No point playing games but it just didn't work for me.

Sorry."

Hopefully that is the end of this episode. Here's hoping I haven't tripped the psycho switch.

Frogs in my life.

There have been several frogs I've kissed that have become friends, I'm just gonna let you know a bit of the background history of a few of them.

John, I met him before I left my husband, I already knew I was going to leave, and I was feeling the sweet taste of freedom. I met him on one of the days which sealed the demise of my marriage. I'd been having heart palpitations, its a condition I lived with and sometimes it got out of hand, but I'd spent the morning in hospital and a friend had picked me up, waited till the ex could take the kids then took me out and treated me to a night on the town- Stunned at the fact my husband couldn't care less.

I was wearing sexy knickers, I was feeling good, free, we giggled and laughed and bumped into a friend of my husbands who I knew liked me. I find him repulsive physically but a nice guy. I told him about an online survey, how much would you give up your knickers for if a guy offered to pay for them. (Apparently some guys like the smell of a women's knickers enough to pay for them) My husbands friend made a sad offer, $5, a friend of his made a better offer but not really, $10, two guys walked into the bar, John and his friend, they said hi to my husbands friend and I figured they knew each other, I asked John and his friend how much for a women's knickers. John asked to see them so I downed my trou enough for him to get a decent glimpse, John said $100 on the spot. the guy knows how to play women.

We had a flirt going from then on, he dated a friend of mine for a bit and I met him in the park once for kissing lessons, he is a damn good kisser.

We finally went to bed about 6 weeks of knowing each other, not a good idea, we were best of friends not lovers, that part of our relationship never lasted but the friendship has.

Next frog friend is MrH. I met him via an internet dating site, his restraint and intelligence impressed me online. We met in a bar, I had a time limit on the time we had to meet as I had put a chicken in the oven and had to be home by the time it was cooked. I hadn't meant to do that but circumstances overwhelmed me. I wasn't attracted to him physically at first but by the end of our time chatting I really was. He has an X factor you either love or hate. We were lovers for a while but as I wasn't ready for a relationship and even if I were we were not suitable so lovers was all we could offer each other. After six months of fun we parted as lovers but continued our friendship.

Allan, is a frog I've never kissed but a best friend. I met him via another friend and we have been best friends since then, he is the most wonderful fun and real man. If he were 15 years younger I'd be keen on him but as it is he is more like a fun father figure than a kissable frog.He has kids the same age as me as well as kids the same age as mine.

Olly, the frog I have a stupid highschool girl crush on. Not sure why. I chatted with him online for months and never met him. He is Mini crazy and I introduced him to MrH online without either of us meeting him, MrH is mini crazy too. When I finally did meet olly, he gave me a hug and I felt such a physical attraction i lost the ability to reason and speak, suddenly all word coming from my mouth stopped making sense. there was a huge problem...he had a girlfriend, albeit one who lived in another town, but still I tried to bide my time, long distance relationships often fail. It seems his did. I told him I had a stupid highschool girl crush on him and... he didn't feel the same. Sadly that doesn't make the crush go away.

Thats the major figures in my pond, its not looking good really is it?

I'll detail some of the others who have hopped out of my pond soon.

Tadpoles and frogs

There are a few in the pond, its just not always that easy distinguishing between potential frogs and committed tadpoles.

Potential frogs, you know will become frogs one day, whether they are frogs you want to kiss in the hope of finding a charmed prince, debatable but there is a chance they could grow to be the lucky frog or just a regular frog in the pond.

Committed tadpoles, they are there, they look like they could grow into frogs but its all just a guise, they lack the skills needed to become frogs.

I'm giving it a go, its kind of like a sport right now, I guess there may come a time where i'll want to hunt to eat but right now its catch and release... maybe thats due to the fact I haven't found anything I want to keep.