Oh Olly

Olly is the guy who I have a stupid schoolgirl crush on that I can't seem to shake.

I was in his town a few weekends back and sent him a text saying I was there for a few hours and did he want to catch up, I finished my business there and drove to another town where I had to drop stuff off. I got back to my car, looked at my phone and saw I had three missed calls from him and a text. his text said Are you still in town, would be nice to catch up.

I sent him a text back saying sorry, had gone but would catch up with him next year. It had been a year since we had caught up in person.

He said I'm going to be down your way in a few weeks, we should catch up then. I asked if he knew that i had moved? he said yeah it was only 80km out of his way. I thought WTF when I lived 50km out of his way we never caught up even when he was in town, its not going to happen.

But sure enough, a few weeks later, he got hold of me and told me a day and asked for my new address. I tried not to get my hopes up, he has bailed on me so many times before.

All I want is to spend some time with him and get to know him better to try and understand why I go all silly and giggly when he is about and all I can think of is touching him and lying naked in his arms. He certainly isn't gods gift to women by traditional standards.

I had work in the morning of the day he was coming. I came home, did some housework, had a shower, went to have a nap. I sent him a text asking if he was still coming. He said he was tired and wanted to go home not 80km out of his way.

I replied "You are still scared of me aren't you"

(He knows I have a crush on him)

Olly replied "Fark yeah!!!"

I replied Thought I smelt chicken, I'm harmless, well mostly ;-) I'm used to you bailing on me now.

Olly replied "Good girl, you should still be living in Qtown"

I replied "I lived there for two years and you never visited, why do you think I was so shocked when you said you would visit me when i live further away now"

Olly replied, "Good things come to those who wait girl"

I replied "I'm not a sit at home and wait kind of girl, I'll just boil a bunny for tea and ask someone else over :-)

I then took a pic of my daughters pet rabbit beside a pot surrounded by a carrot and onion ad sent it to him. Once when I told Olly about a drive home from his town I mentioned how many wild rabbits my car had hit, Olly joked about me stopping to pick them up and boil them. He thinks I'm obsessed with him and will stalk him. I should never have told him about my crush on him.

Olly replied

:-D

The man drives me insane... maybe I am a bunny boiler?

Cows With Guns

CWG is his initials, I didn't think much of his profile but he was tall and I like em tall.

I agreed to meet him in a coffee shop but I was running late so sent him a text saying he had a choice, I could either be later or he got me in work clothing straight off the farm. He chose straight off the farm.

I met him and thought wow he is cute, nothing like his profile pic, his face is lively and animated and he smiles a lot. He had lovely twinkly blue eyes. We got on well I thought, he worked in the same industry as me, in a similar capacity too. He was environmental enforcement I was environmental monitoring. He liked music, he does Volly work. He is a bit more of a loner than me, he is happy to go away for a weekend fishing by himself. I would always take friends.

He doesn't have kids and would like them, his own, given my age and the age of my kids its not likely to happen so I feel a bit put off by that, it could cause issues later on - if things did ever progress.

He sent me a text within two hours of us parting, but just a casual sort of text. I was thrilled to get it though. But since then messaging and texting has been sporadic. He would like to meet me again he said but he is fairly busy. I understand but would like more flirt lol.

Update 1

I managed to meet him again for a cup of tea and a beer a couple of weeks later and loved every minute of his company. We spent a good hour together then he got me to give him a ride home. I managed to give his bum a wee pat as he got out of my car, but it was raining and I had to go get my kids so had to hurry.

Flirty texts and some pic exchanges occurred.

Next meet was me dropping off some excess seafood I had been bragging about, but I had the kids waiting in the car I managed to get a cuddle out of him and a got a pat on my bum.

But weekend after weekend we both seem to have plans, its damn hard to meet up.

But... we did manage a short overnight while I was staying with friends in Qtown, it was awkward as we haven't spent enough time together, but I'm totally into him.

One Weekend...

I have been chatting/texting to 3 guys at one and I'm not sure how this weekend is going to pan out.

First there is Evan, he is nice and tall but a little bit skinny for me but there is a real spark with his wit and his manner, but he keeps wanting to meet me at my place, and for sex only. Not what I want. I keep telling him I need to meet him somewhere neutral before I even consider taking him to my place and when I do meet him there are no guaranties I will put out (Ok, so you all roll your eyes as you know me better) But then after calling him and talking to him I finally got out of him he has a girlfriend, on and off sort of thing and thats why he doesn't want to meet in public. What a load of crap. last thing I want to be is the other woman who hurts his girlfriend. If he wants to meet me, its a public place and he is single.

Then came Paul, nice enough guy, met him for coffee, we chatted and got on well, but there is no physical spark, he seems a lot shorter than he said in his profile. He is really into me, I tell him I'm too busy to meet him again and he says I'm worth the wait, I tell him I'm chatting to other guys and plan to meet them too, he says he isn't interested in other women -I'm the right woman for him. Its too intense, I've agreed to go on a another date with him but have postponed twice, he is fine with that -I'm worth the wait. I'm actually put off by his keenness. Its dinner and a movie with him Sat night... I feel I'm just leading him on yet I've been straight up and up front with him. I will have to say no more if he doesn't get it and i still feel the same way after our date Sat.

Grant, doesn't make my skin crawl, makes me laugh, not quite as tall as I'd like and way sporty which I'm not. Our first meet/date is playing golf on Friday, I'm useless at golf, he thinks that is funny. I can just imagine him doing the corny arms around me showing me how to get the swing right, rubbing himself against me... yet I'm not put off. We have been really flirty, its been a lot of fun but I have been clear and straight up and let him know its back to square one when we meet.

I'll try and post Sunday and let you know how my weekend is going.

UPDATE 1

Evan, I have finally met him. He had finally convinced me he was single, we got talking and I asked him if he had mentioned me to anyone at his work, where I used to work casually about 13 years ago. He said he had and told me about how my former boss, how his boss remembered me and what he had said.

I was actually really flattered. Former Boss remembered me and said some nice stuff and recalled almost word for word our last meeting when I had a new born and he dragged me and the baby to his office for coffee and cake and a chat.

So I let my guard down and he came to my place for a coffee, 11pm after he finished work.

He was nice but he wanted to talk about me and just evaded any questions about him. I guess he is a reported so is used to doing that. But things will never be between us, he has his boy weekends when I am kid free, there isn't going to be a lot of time for us to get to know each other without involving the kids which is something I don't want to do.

We are keeping in contact and he still wants to find a way. But I also get the feeling he is not interested long term but just wants a friend with benefits.

Paul, has started to creep me out, the Sat night date was nice but he made people uncomfortable by cracking lame and un funny attempts at jokes. For instance we walked into a bar which is in a building which used to be a department store about 15 years ago. When we approached the bar he asked the bar lady if he could collect a layby... this is Deka isn't it? The bar lady would ahve been about 8 when Deka closed down and had no idea what he was talking about. It also made me feel old!!!

Wellt he date was nice but then he asked me to his place for coffee one afternoon, I went and his house was lined from wall to wall with DVD's it seems the guy does nothing but record and watch movies and is very proud of that. I want someone with more of an active life.

Grant, well we met in a bar and the sport was on, he said Hi, we got a drink and he sat almost with his back to me so he could watch sport. After an hour of trying to make conversation I got bored and said I was going. He looked me up and down and said "Don't spose we could go somewhere so I could have a feel of those puppies before you go" he was referring to my breasts. I said No, he asked repeatedly and I began to laugh it was so silly. he said "You can't blame me for asking- their spectacular" and i said goodbye and laughed all the way to my car, drove away got a text from him about an hour later saying "I guess you not coming back"

I replied "I like the way you make me laugh - but thats a No!"

Scott & Harvey

Well I was out on the town with John, he had just been given news a family member had passed away and as there wasn't an available flight til the next day either had to sit at home morose like or hit the town, in true John style we hit the town.

We met up with some friends of his, and went to a couple of different bars, I got up and danced, by myself as I find thats the best way to get guys to dance with you.. it worked. I danced with a Paul for a bit, but noticed a couple of guys looking, one looked familiar.

I managed to lose Paul, he was getting a bit close and I liked the way one of the guys watching me looked.

I drank a bit with my friends, and then decided I'd throw an ice cube at the one who looked familiar, he came right on over. After a quick conversation, he wasn't familiar, had been in town 5 hours.

Danced with him a bit and with his friend. They both seemed really keen, and neither minded the others interest. I kept getting sandwiched between them while dancing. It was kinky, now it has always been a fantasy of mine to have two guys, but some things may be best kept as a fantasy. John however knew this fantasy, and was pissing himself with laughter watching the two of them getting a bit competitive over me. I was keen on the taller one, the other one was a bit too good looking and shorter than me. John said later how funny it was, like a small dog humping my leg, he would grind against me as I was kissing the taller one.

When it came time to go home, the shorter guy, Harvey knew his place and said good bye. Scott came home with me and spent the night... No Tourist rule broken again but it wasn't so bad.

Adam Goldberg

Well, its not Adam Goldberg, but the one time I've met him he reminded me of Adam Goldberg, both in looks and in manner, well some of his characters manners, quirky off beat sort of guy.

I met him at a motorbike rally, he started dancing with one of my friends and I joined them dancing together, my friend left and he and I started dancing and it got close.

It was just a bit of drunken fun at a motorbike rally. But then we got back to my van and we started talking. And this fun and funny and interesting guy appeared. And we talked for about an hour, then made out a bit and then we started talking again. He was really nice. But it wasn't till the next day when I thought about him that I began to wonder if there could be more than just that night.

I sent him an email about a week later saying basically "Hey remember me?" and I said I wasn't expecting anything but there were several reactions he could have to my email.

A, Fark off you scary cougar... I almost chewed my arm off to get away in the morning, my friends said I was lucky to escape alive.

B, SAL who? OMG was that your name... sorry you are too easy to forget.

C, I remember you, yeah that was fun, maybe next time I'm in town I'll look you up. See you next year though.

D, Yeah, it was a lot of fun and I'd like to do that again soon. I'll call you - lets see what happens.

I got a reply from him the next day, I liked his reply, it was honest and flattering but it was a no, not interested. Well, I may as well show you.

"Hi there,

SAL I'm a bit at a loss as to what to say.
I so don't do that sort of thing, sure was some fun times i have flashes of awesomeness.
Honestly I'm trying to get a girl I've been talking to for some time to go out with me, and so should not have gone with you to your van.
so unfortunately only a 1 night stand and one I'd like to keep to just you and me? Sorry. I don't want to take anything away from it, as it's some of the most fun I've had for some time.
I know this isn't the reply you were looking for.

Happy to chat etc if you want.

Cheers

Adam."

I felt it was a genuine honest reply and I appreciated it, we have chatted back and forth a bit now, and he sent me a facebook friend request. I thought about accepting it for a week or so, then just did it. I'm guessing I shouldn't have now as I'm feeling more of a crush on him with each contact. He has started asking me stuff about things in my photos and things I have posted.

But the one thing that gives me hope is the way he signs off emails, he started adding stuff in, First it was XXX's after his name then its like Cheers and big hugs with the XXX's I've taken his move and thrown it back, "Cheers and big hugs that start off as a hug but end up as an arse grab" was my last response. It should either make him run a mile or we are gonna end up having cyber sex in our sign offs :rofl:

I'm trying not to invest much in this. I will also try and keep you lot posted ;-)

Update 1

Well he hasn't run a mile, things are getting friendlier and friendlier. We have discussed his other friend, his love interest I guess. It doesn't sound like anything is going anywhere fast, they met 10 years ago and have had relationships fail since then. But have never met again and its a text message and email relationship.

He seems to think as fondly as I do of the time we spent together, we have started chatting on FB more and more and have switched to web cam chat, its still restrained and tame but its driving me wild... in a good way! He knows how to tease me.

Update 2

I was going up to his town and met up with him for a while. His car was being fixed and so I picked him up, we were going to go out for a drink. So I picked him up asked where we were going, he said anywhere, I rolled my eyes. It's his town he should suggest where to go. So we drove around a bit and then found a place he was ok with and had a couple of drinks. then we went for a walk along the beach and found a secluded spot and sat down. I made the first move, pulled his arms around me and kissed him, before long I was sitting in his lap, astride him, we ended up having a lot of fun in the dark on the beach, it was a stormy windy night but at no time did I feel cold with him. We stayed out there for a few hours, wrapped in each other arms, talking. I really like him. We agreed to meet again, but we would find somewhere we could stay the night.

I called him the next day and asked if he had any suggestions where we could meet, he said he was not good at organizing stuff and I should do it. I booked a cabin in a small town not far from where we were. I picked him up and we went out there, the sexual tension was intense, we fell in each others arms as soon as we got inside, emerged a few hours later and decided to go for a drive around the countryside. He drove me car. OMG he was such a commanding driver, so powerful so in control totally pushing my wee nana sized car to its limits... WHY CAN'T HE BE LIKE THAT IN LIFE! Spending so much time with him made me see exactly how passive and indecisive he is, in both his life and with other people.

We went out for a meal and had a really lovely passionate night together. We watched a movie on his laptop, he lay behind me and held me as we watched together. It felt so good it nearly made me cry. He certainly sets the standard when is comes to physical looks and the way we fit together, but not his gentle but too passive indecisive and depressive personality.

We have managed to stay friends, I adore him and would go there again but know he isn't right for me and I'm not right for him. But I'm glad I got the time to find out for myself.

I wanted that with Olly, time to get to know him, but never got it. I've always thought its the fact things are unknown between Olly and me that means I can't get him out of my head.

Southern man

Another internet dating meet.

After emailing back and forth a few times he asked for my phone number, I gave him my cell number expecting a text, but he called me. We spoke easily for over an hour and a half.

We looked into meeting that Friday but it didn't quite suit. We agreed on the Friday after.

I had no contact from him all week, so Thursday night I sent him a text confirming all was well for tomorrow. It was, there was no conversation by text or email, old fashioned maybe, and I wonder if I can change that cos I like the sending and receiving of sweet nothings in the night texts when you can't be together and thinking of you, when you do.

I was early to our meeting place, a bar with a restaurant. I sent him a text to let him know on the off chance he might be early too. He was and was there within 5 minutes.

It was nice to meet him, he looked just like his pic. He is 6 foot, good build, a nice blend of metro and rugged. We have a lot in common and easily broke the cardinal rule of not talking about the Ex's. But we have been through so much of the same things it was nice to find support and understanding.

He was a farm worker for a while but then injured himself so went to university and studied for the job he has now. Its a good job, not stuck in an office all the time but out and about on the land as well. He likes to hunt, I find that very sexy in a man, the ability to hunt and provide.

We went for dinner after the drink, he insisted he bought, he understood my financial limitations. Dinner was nice, we talked a lot about food, how nice it is to be cooked for, he is the single parent of two daughters. His ex wife while able to look after the kids for a short time is not in a place where she can for long. We both feel the same about introducing a new partner to the kids, not doing it right away. We both had dessert, I actually felt comfortable eating dessert around him, not like the fat girl pigging out. He showed me some pics on his phone from across the table, when I showed him some in exchange he came and sat beside me. There was a warmth and comforting feeling having him beside me like that. I felt like he would be someone who was on my side and supportive.

We went for a walk down to the lake front, it was a couple of blocks away and not a straightforward path, so at one stage I took his hand to lead him, but kept hold as it was nice to be with him like that.

We looked at the stars, he asked if I knew the southern cross etc, I said yes and showed him a few more constellations he didn't know. Then I thought I'd bull shit him a bit and started pointing out Sagittarius and Taurus and then laughed my arse of when he started to see things I was pointing out and I explained I had no idea what I was pointing to.

It was fun to tease him and play with him as well as be close and talk. I knew he would kiss me at the lake front and I think he knew it too, but it took ages for the moment to be right.

His kisses were firmer than I'm used to, but they got softer and more passionate, I will need to take things slow with him, he has not dated since his wife.

Eventually after nothing more than kissing we walked back to my car and said goodbye, we have already set a 2nd date for next weekend, maybe a bike ride and picnic, maybe a rafting trip, will be subject to weather I guess.

Update 1

I had a second date with SM, it started well, he picked me up. He bought some steaks from his farm for me to cook him for tea... I kind of thought that was a bit presumptious and kind of liked his style. We went out to a small town, intending to do a bush walk based there. We went for lunch first, lovely meal, good conversation etc. then we drove to where the bush walk started and it started pouring with rain. we sat in the car chatting for a bit then he drove down by the river where there was a lovely view of the mountains and pulled me into his lap to kiss me. Again the kisses were very firm, almost biting too. He told me he was able to stay the night with me, I was ok with that idea. We lay back the seats and made out for a bit, I felt his crutch and it was soft, I was surprized as he was having a good go at my breasts... he got my shirt off me and my bra and I was sitting astride him in the car when about 40 kayakers pulled up and got out of the river right where we were... OMG I'm glad I saw them first. I rolled over back to my seat and pulled my coat over me, the first kayaker got a good look and had a giggle but the rest were oblivious. All this time SM stayed soft... it was discussed, he said he had spoken to his doc about it and his doc said that as he still had a morning glory there was no medical issue. He is taking anti depressants and they mess with function he said. We got back to my place and I cooked him his steak... perfectly, well I was a wife for 14 years lol. I had a DVD I wanted to watch but he wouldn't watch it with me. It was a thriller he doesn't like scary movies... ok, but then he wouldn't let me watch it either. that bugged me as it was still too early to go to bed and to be honest I was getting sick of his company. It was too long to spend together. He stayed the night but wanted to cuddle all night. That bugs me, I cuddle for a bit then roll over and get some sleep. In the morning, true to word he had a lovely morning glory.. but it faded before we could get a condom on. Then Aunt Flow turned up with a clear agenda, no slow start and spotting like she usually does. I dealt to Aunt Flow and went back to bed and fell asleep. Later I let him get up and see himself out, I was tired.

We have had a few phone calls and a couple of text conversations since then, he wants another date but I think I'm going to have to say no, there just isn't the spark I want.

Update 2

He asked if I would meet him for a drink on Friday at 4pm, thats when I drop the kids off to their Dad.

I did and it was good to se him. I was going to tell him it was going nowhere but he had made a picnic. I was impressed, he had even made sushi, not bought it. It was good too.

We spent a lot of time talking, he told me all about his religion and I felt really uncomfortable, I don't believe. We had so little in common but he still wanted to see me again.

I agreed but then spoke to him on the phone and cancelled, I don't see the point of dragging things out when its not going to work.

Son of a Gun

SO, he is about my age, single, and a lot like his Dad, I'm not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing.

After meeting him with his Dad I thought about him a fair bit. So I called him a week later, looked up his number and gave him a call. He knew exactly who I was, no hesitation in his voice at all. I told him I was coming to town with my kids the next day, did he and his daughter want to play with my kids? He was really keen on that. He asked if we wanted to stay the night. Now having seen his house and how small it is I said no. But he said there was a trundle bed and he could fit more people in. I said no, but said another time when I don't have the kids sure. Another time turned out to be a weekend later.

Now I wasn't sure if I should let his Dad know I was chatting to his son, I figured Dad would call son and give him some advice if he knew and I didn't want that. But I didn't want things to work out for us and be a total surprise for Dad either.

So the next weekend I headed down there, he was going to be out when I got there, he was meeting friends and I was running late so I got instructions on how to let myself in, make myself at home and then join them. I did.

When we got to the bar he introduced me as My Dads friend, that was so embarrassing! He said "My friend too" when I blushed. We had a lot of fun, laughing and drinking with his friends, we both got very drunk. He pulled me up for a dance and then pulled me in close and kissed me during it. His friends were way past ready to go home and we walked with them a short distance then walked hand in hand for a while then stopped in a shop doorway and made out a bit. He felt my breasts, I felt his very firm crutch, I was ready to go home too, or at least to the park nearby. But he said, No, I never get to go out on the town, lets go to a few other places first. Well the town had sure changed since I went there and there were several bars I'd not been to before to visit. I felt fairly old but not fat in this town! I was quite surprised by the amount of overweight women about.

He was just like his Dad to walk about with, said Hello to everyone, seemed very alpha male and dominant. Then as we were crossing a pedestrian crossing a car full of kids shot right in front of us, he thumped on the window of it. It screeched to a halt and the drive jumped out and grabbed him by his shirt and tried to head butt him. he said Mate if you want to fight do it here and backed into a shop that was open that clearly had security cameras. The guy took one swing, then came to his senses and got back in his car. I know Son of a Gun was drunk, but I couldn't stand the way he acted. He was very macho, and threatened to burn the guys house down if he messed with him again. I was like, whatever and tried to get him home. He wanted some food first and we waited on a burger and some chips, all the time there was macho crowing and it annoyed me.

By the time we got the taxi home my annoyance had worn off though, we had a lot of fun that night in the shower and on the couch, he slept on the couch and I slept in the spare bed, his bed remained untouched. We had fun on the floor in front of the fire in the morning.

I got up and did the things I had to do in town and then bought some lunch back, he was still in his dressing gown and nursing a hangover while I was dressed and had been up for 5 hours and was feeling fine. So I was sitting at his place having lunch and there was a knock on the front door... It was his Dad. I felt like a teen who had been caught in the act. I explained what I'd been up to, censored of course, and He explained why he was visiting his son. I told him about the fight the night before and made out I was leading his son astray, taking him out on the town and then fighting in the street. I had to go, I had my next appointment to get to.

Son of a gun called me a few hours later and suggested I come back for a cup of coffee. In the sober light of day he wanted to spend some time with me. It didn't take long till we were making out on the couch again. But afterwards, he seemed distant. He jumped onto his computer and was checking Trade Me auctions. I had packed everything up and I said to him, "I'm not sure when I'm in town again but that was fun so if you are still single and I'm still single next time I'm in town, perhaps it would be fun to do that again." he replied "For sure"

I'm in two minds about him, he is a lot like his Dad which I find very attractive, but he is also a lot different from his Dad in ways I don't like, the over drinking and aggressiveness is huge turn off, his Dad never get drunk like that- I admire the way his Dad drinks. he also wasn't that great in bed, the sex was good but it was my efforts rather than his that made it that way, just talking he is a lot less experienced than me, there are things he has never done sexually that I'd like to change. However, I feel like I'm only interested in him as he is his fathers son. But I just can't find his father sexually attractive at all.

I'll update this and let you know what happens.

UPDATE 1

No contact from SOAG for a couple of week, then got a text from him 9 in the morning Sunday, exactly a month after last contact. "Hey, wot you up too" I was still in bed and replied I was having a sleep in. He said he was too and was having fun thinking about my visit and wondering when I was next in town.

I was a bit thrown by my reaction to him, I smiled and replied right away, I was keen and turned on by the idea of visiting him again. His texts back to me came instantly too. I think thats always a good sign.I had planned to go to Invers the next weekend. I let him know and he offered accommodation. Later that day I found out a dear friend had passed away and the funeral was Friday, so my visit was confirmed.

He knew a lot of friends of my friend who has passed, but he had work the next morning and started at 5am so wasn't interested in going to the wake. But then after the wake, some friends were heading to a hot tub another friend had, swimwear was optional there and he was early tempted into coming. I called over to see him for a bit... yeah a booty call. I have to admit, he does it for me when he smiles. I spent a couple of hours with him, then joined my die hard friends giving the dearly beloved the send off she would have loved. I got back to his place just in time to see him off to work. He totally did it for me in his work uniform too, I'm very attracted to him physically.

After a long sleep in I spent the day with my friends, but made it back to his place in time for him to get home. He pretty much ignored me and got out of his work gear, got changed and said he was off to watch the rugby. I had plans with my friends and he said he might join us later. Later I sent him a text, but no reply, later I said I was heading back to his place but no reply, I felt weird about sleeping in his bed without him there, so I slept in my sleeping bag on the spare bed. I fell asleep, i was knackered, at 4am I woke up and he still wasn't home, I checked my phone and there was a text from his at 1am saying he would be home soon. I felt sick. It bought back how I used to feel about my ex husband when he got too drunk and fell asleep somewhere. I worry about people. I sent him a text asking if he was ok, as soon wasn't 3 hours in my book. he replied after 30 mins saying he was two mins away. He was home and all my sick and angry feelings melted and I was happy to be with him again. I spent what was left of the night with him, the first time we had slept in a bed together... as in sleeping not ... yeah.

He wasn't snuggly and cuddly, but then I usually find that a bit suffocating. When he woke up we were at it again... the sex was a lot better than last time. But I didn't want to hang about, I left while he was in the shower, said I'd call him next time I was in town.

I don't think we are relationship compatible, there is too much I'd want to change and mostly his drinking habits. But I do think he could become a good friend with benefits.